Starting Conversations

I’m a total introvert. That does not mean I don’t like talking to people, but it does mean I don’t actually start a lot of conversations. If you approached me and started a conversation though, I’d be happy to talk to you. The point is, I know it can be a bit hard to start a conversation, and it’s particularly hard in another language.

In this post, I’ll outline a few ways to start a conversation in business and semi-casual situations so that you can always be confident you’re saying the right thing.

Keep in mind, these are just a few examples. You should always try to choose the right thing for your situation.

1. Start with a compliment:

Take care! Compliments can be friendly, but don’t get too personal. Complimenting someone’s skirt might sound friendly from another woman, but that might be too casual. From a guy, it could sound creepy. So, use your best judgement.

Your offices are great. How long have you been in this building?
Everyone has been so friendly. Thank you for having me.
I caught your presentation. You made some interesting points.

2. Ask open-ended questions and avoid yes/no questions which can quickly end a conversation.

What brings you to the event today?
How did you feel about the last presenter?
Where did you hear about our company?

3. Share something interesting about yourself:

I came in from California for this event.
Last year, I saw this presenter speak in London.
I actually know the woman who designed your watch.

4. Find common ground:

I noticed you’re wearing a Garmin watch. I have one too.
I heard you mention you’re interested in M&A. What do you think about the Inatech / Vandalay merger?
I’m always interested in new investment opportunities. What startups are you interested in?